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December/ January
2006-07
Dr. Abram Hoffer, PhD
Jocelan Caldwell
Breathe Right
By Sheri Kauhausen
The Face Of Relationships
by Jean Haner
Honoring Our Indigos
by Pamela Greenwood
Life In Its Purest Form
by Margaret I. Jang
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Honoring Our Indigos
By Pamela Greenwood
What is our job as parents? Is it to mold, shape, discipline and “create” what our idea of perfect children are? As much as most parents would hopefully say no, our
behaviors can more often than not, unconsciously fit this description.
The term “indigo” refers to a new “type” of child who comes into the world with a new set of intelligence that is becoming more and more apparent in most young people. Children are, as we speak, becoming more in need of a different style of upbringing and education. This is because they are, on a daily basis, being stifled from being the remarkable people they are and wish to become. Their spirits are not being fully
honored, their potential is not being fully seen, and their diversity is not being applauded. In fact, it is their beautiful diversity that is being looked down upon, and then labeled. It almost seems that it is society’s way of thinking that if people in general learn, think or behave differently, they must then have a “disorder”.
Think of your average public school. Let’s say there is, for example, a minimum of 30 people in any given classroom setting. These 30 different people have very different styles of learning, different abilities, different attitudes, beliefs and upbringings. The way in which they are educated, however, is the same. What this would then teach a child is that there is one “norm”, one way to be.
The lack of space that is allowed for children’s emotions is also a very big problem. What does it teach a child when we scold them for being angry, for example? This would tell us that anger is not an appropriate or respected emotion and nothing could be further from the truth.
Working to try and change the education system, however, could leave us panting for breath.
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As parents, however, there are ways we can improve. There are many
alternative schools out there that can foster your child’s spirit. The
key is attention for these children and constantly observing their
behaviors and attitudes. Let them tell you who they are and how they need to be raised.
When a child comes into this world they bring with them the overwhelming and fulfilling spirit of faith, hope and joy. As they grow and enter society, however, that spirit tends to get stomped on, time and time again, when we don’t allow for them to “be who they are”. So many children are coming into this world knowing exactly who they are. When we try to impose ideas or beliefs upon them, we are not only clouding that vision but we are “telling” them that who they are is not acceptable or good enough.
One of the biggest so-called “mistakes” a parent can make with these children is treating them like children. They are, and have always been, little adults in these smaller bodies. Growing up indigo, I experienced first-hand at how frustrating it is not to be heard because I was too “young” and “inexperienced”. I knew what I had to say was valuable, and I knew I had a definite place in this world, right up there with the “big people”. What parents don’t realize they are even doing to these children by treating them as “less-than” is teaching them that their voice isn’t worth hearing.
That is very disempowering to our youth. When you can talk to even an infant like you would to anyone else, you are
honoring their spirit, and in doing so will empower their being to recognize their full potential.
Whatever message you give to them from young on, is the imprint you will leave on their hearts about who they believe they are and what they can achieve. So leave a good one, because the future of our society depends on the amazing strength and intelligence of these young people. You are not the only influence in your child’s life, so make sure you are the best one!
Pamela Greenwood is a Certified Life Coach who works over the phone and can be reached at:
604-723-3236
IndigoConsulting@ZenSearch.com
What is our job as parents? Is it to mold, shape, discipline and “create” what our idea of perfect children are? As much as most parents would hopefully say no, our
behaviors can more often than not, unconsciously fit this description. |
